Monday, May 23, 2011

Excuse Me?

Robs "starts" kindergarten in the Fall.
But I have a dilemma.
A big one.

The public schools...
I really don't know quite where to begin.

And the private schools?
They pull a Rumpelstiltskin
and ask for your first born (grand)child in addition to tuition.
(Not to mention Text books, Year books, Family Fee,
Enrollment Fee, and a deposit of the non-refundable variety.)

Call me stubborn, I'm not willing to do it.

So I've been putting it off.
All the while hoping that I wouldn't have to visit the elementary.

Or that perhaps the local gerrymandering fairies
would magically re-gerrymander the school lines
so Robs could attend a slightly better school...
(The one within walking distance.)

None of it worked.
So this morning I carefully applied my happy face.
We drove the seven minute drive.
I held Robs' hand... (for my very own sake.)
We marched past the tattooed arm in the idling car...
...through the main (video camera'd) front doors...
And introduced ourselves at the front desk.

I did the talking.
Robs did the smiling.
We made the best of it.
(I'm as proud of Robs as proud can be.)

We met all four teachers.
We saw all four classrooms.

And when the special needs child escaped his class room and grabbed my rear,
I took Robs' hand and moved down the hallway so the teacher could guide him back inside.

And then I started asking questions.
Curriculum?
...decent.

Class size?
...okay.

Typical day?
...not preferable, but we'll make do.

Expectations?
...acceptable.

Discipline?
"...The paddle is kept in the principal's office."


Excuse me?
I thought the teacher was kidding.

She was not.
She said at the beginning of the year I can sign a waiver,
allowing the teachers to paddle my child if they deem it necessary.
I didn't know that was legal.

Here is my dilemma.
I'm confident Robs would never find herself on the wrong side of the paddle.
And I would, of course, sign a waiver to make sure of that.
But can I really send her to a school that honestly believes paddling is okay?
And embraces it?

I didn't mention this before, but the racial background of the student body favors one color,
and puts Robs' in a small... very small minority.
(I counted three.)
I have no issue with her being a minority,
but pair that with the paddle comment,
and I HAVE TO ask,
"What does this say about the student body?"
Or the school in general?

At one point in my life I swore... I would never homeschool.
But after today I'm at a loss for words with which to swear...
And homeschooling is starting to entice me.

Kindergarten:
Home school?
(Considering she's getting antsy with our daily routine...)

Public School?
(Considering all of the above...)

To anyone who still reads this blog...
Any insight?
Any opinions?
Any experience?
Please share.

...Please?

(And as a general rule, we do not paddle anyone on this blog.)

8 comments:

  1. 1. The paddle is a small town-ish southern thing. We had one at our school. In first grade the paddle's name was George. He even had a mean face painted on him. Just be glad her teacher isn't Tony Jenkins. She scared the living day lights out of me in first grade and she still does!
    2. You would be a great home schooler! I say got for it. But I would consider this: does she need a break from her siblings (probably not, but maybe) do you need more time with the other two (probably, but isn't that always going to be the case?) I still think you would be the funnest homeschooler around. Mainly because you're awesome at everything you do.

    OOOORRRRR is there ANY way you could finagle a transfer voucher or pay a transfer fee to the other school? Sometimes the transfer fees are cheaper than private schools. I know that happens here in UT and I know it happens ALLLL the time in TX.

    I do not envy you in this situation. At all.

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  2. Yikes! I know that in East Lansing you can apply to have your child go to another school that isn't "yours" - if the school that is close by is a good one I would do everything you can to get her to go there. Do you know how long you'll be in Louisiana? I have never thought I would want to be a homeschooler - but I know I could do it IF it felt right and I thought it was the best option. Especially if I knew it was short term! I am sure you'll know what's best for your family and make the right choice - but it is hard! Good luck.

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  3. ugh. and even if you did paddle, you'd never want someone else to do it for you.

    Our district offers "out of zone" transfers. You don't even need a very good reason to apply for one. See if you can get her into that other school. Put the mama bear pants on and do some dialing.

    And if that doesn't work, go with your instincs. If you're not comfortable with her there, keep her home. There are some things we don't even give a trial run because they aren't a good idea to begin with. Homeschooling is a lot different now than it used to be. Maybe you can buddy up with another mom for a kid swap on certain days to shake up that old routine, if you're worried about it.

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  4. Even with our great schools here, I still struggle. It's such a big decision. They spend SO much time there and it makes an impact on them.
    After doing private school this year, I can see that they still have many, many flaws. It's just a question of which flaws I'm willing to live with.
    I think the two biggest influences on the child are the teacher and the student body. I want my child to feel safe and if possible loved. Especially in kindergarten. If private school and transferring are not an option, home school starts looking really good.
    But you have to go with your gut. Pray like crazy. And then the most frustrating part comes when you think you have it all figured out and then you realize that what's right for one child may not be right for another. But you have a few more years until you have to worry about that :)
    School is such a trial for me. I'm sorry you get to deal with it too.
    Last piece of advice. If you make a choice and it doesn't work out, don't be afraid to pull her out and do something different. Kids are so resilient. Good luck!

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  5. So this is funny you bring this up b/c I've been in sooo many conversations about this recently. First off, really pray about it. But here in our area you CAN'T just switch districts. So that option is out for us. And our racial situation is just like yours...my neighbor's kid was one of 2 caucasians in his class (and that's not the first time a mom has told me that around here). My neighbor said he didn't learn a thing the whole first year of school b/c they spent so much time helping the ESL kids who were not at all prepared for kindergarten. Anyway, the parents either just deal with it and grin and bear it, or homeschool.

    I know a lot of homeschooling parents around here. One thing I've learned is that there are several different models. I could maybe track down some info for you if you are interested. There's not just the model where it's the kids and the mom 5 days a week (although that happens a lot too), another popular option around here is homeschool for 3 days, and then a group school/gathering/I don't know what they call it, but 2 days a week the "homeschoolers" get together and are taught by a teacher. It gives the mom a great break. And it's alllll free. They give you all the materials. (At least here they do.) And in our area they supplement different programs (like dance, science camps, etc.) so the kids get tons of exposure to other kids. Which I think is super cool, and not what I thought homeschool would be like.

    Anyway, there's lots of options out there once you start looking (and I'm guessing your area is not unlike ours in having options). Talk to the other moms maybe and see what they do. Make a list of pros and cons. And then just pray and go with your gut. Robyn seems like a doll and I'm sure will thrive no matter what.

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  6. Christine,

    I would send Robs. It will be like an adventure. You will talk about it for years and laugh about it and Robs will love it. Mostly Robs is all grown up anyway. Yall have put in some good hard work to make Robs a highly resilient, extremely smart, charming little girl. Trust your own handiwork and send the little one on an adventure

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  7. all i have to say is- do whatever YOU think you should, not what anyone else thinks is right. Even if what YOU think is right seems crazy to others, who cares? it's not their kid. mother knows best. period.

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  8. honestly, i'm baffled...paddling....in school....legal?!? what? Trust your gut feeling, it usually knows what to do.

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